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[meanmydogs]

Hi MEA, hows you?

Please let us know how it goes..
It cannot be easy for you.. with all the emotional blackmail around.
Remember.. do nothing in haste.. This took such a long time to come to today...
Give yourself time and space to work out what is best for you..

It is not out of pity... but out of love and caring, sharing and honesty that good relationships are built.. So any move for you must be the considered decision ;taken in time and in the space to make a clear choice.
we are here for you whatever happens..

Let us help and support you!

Love n hugs Calder xx

That made me cry Thankyou, Calder, Jay, DB, Karen, Patti, oh Im just going to say "THANKYOU ALL DBers, YOU ARE THE BEST!!!" incase Im here all night naming everyone, you are all very important to me.

Sooooo much rubbish going on here, I wouldnt know where to start, so I,ll leave most of it out for now. Chipdick tried to control me, with the house situation, one minute accepting an offer to buy him out, the next minute changing his mind, it became very draining. But I can see through it, he,s lost control and is frantically trying to find something, anything, to regain some sort of power over me. I stayed pretty calm considering its not un-known for me to chase him with a handsaw, , but eventually I got fed up, and decided to view a house in Wales.

Chipdick went into panic-mode then. I was moving away, god forbid, he couldnt allow that!! First came the tears. I wasnt cruel, I even hugged him, but he just saw that as a red light and tried snogging me, then came the pleading and promises, then he began stalking me

He followed me on a night out, called my phone constantly and I had to switch it off, started sleeping at the new house every night and standing in the dark watching my house, if I even got up to use the loo in the night and put the light on, he would be there, knocking on the door, it got so bad I was putting all the lights out all the time and sneaking around my own home

So now we,re into the Rage stage. Not with me, but with everyone and anyone else. Im sure my turn will come

I do feel very very sorry for him. His life is a total mess, and I cant help him. Or I can, by having him home, but that wouldnt be the answer. Besides, I dont feel that way about him at all, and never will again. Im "almost" happy on my own, I wont be really happy untill all this house stuff is sorted out and Im settled somewhere, hopefully away from here, but I do know I CAN be happy, and thats something I thought Id never be. Im expecting a few problems tonight, its our Anniversary today and I dont think he,s going to handle it very well, but as for me, Im fine, I even forgot untill he sent me an e.mail this morning

I have a bit of a confession to make I did something "not nice" a few weeks ago. My friend and me were back here after a nightout, we were a bit ..ahem..merry and were looking at internet sites, Ugly.com or something it was called, we were just generally behaving like kids and laughing at some of the photos, and a pop-up popped-up, as they do. It was Get Revenge on a cheating spouse so we clicked on it for a laugh.

Basically it was a site where you order a text message or a postcard or package to be sent to an ex. There was one package which was a box (empty inside) but on the outside it said, in HUGE letters "KING DONG-PENIS ENLARGER". Whoever the recipient is has to sign for it when its delivered. Imagine the shame, because the postman cant help but see it!! So we ordered it, and sent it to Chipdick

That was weeks ago and I forgot all about it. It was delivered yesterday. BUT, you remember that a certain postman thats been delivering for years around here always puts chipdicks post in Mums?? (the newer ones just put it in next door even though it looks empty) Well, unfortunately, yesterday it was the older postie, and he knocked on Mums house, my Step-dad answered and the postie said "parcel to be signed for". My stepdad cant see very well and is 80, and he signed for it. As the postie was going, he said to my step dad " Hope it works mate" and smiled at him.

He saw the funny side, but now Royal Mail probably think my stepdad is a bit of a perv

I had a bit of explaining to do!! Anyway, I re-sent it, and watched out incase it was the same postie this morning, but it wasnt and I saw him knock on chipdicks, and saw him sign for it all smiley, before he saw what was on it, then his face dropped and he quickly went it!! I wish I couldve been inside to see his reaction, and I cant ask him about it cos then he,ll know it was me, but he is in a FOUL mood today, what an Anniversary presant

Hopefully he,ll think it was Spook

Jay, H is fine, doing really well, touch wood. I,ll e.mail you, and you too Calder, I PROMISE, I keep forgetting untill Im in bed and then I think "Oh, I didnt do that!!" I,ll be in touch very soon. Dont anyone go anywhere, I might be needing someone to cry to, or vent to, within the next few days, theres a storm a brewing

Love to you all. Mea. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx