Quote: ---------------------------------- My apologies to NOPkin but if I ever have the opportunity to have an affair, I will. Everyone deserves sex a few times in their life and I'm just human too. I even told my husband in advance. ----------------------------------
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---------------------------------- Anyway, at this stage of the game, it's probably a death blow to my marriage. We don't have the time for the years of therapy this would take to fix. It's very sad. ----------------------------------
It's never too late, vw. Our marriage has lost decades too, but we have won back our relationship.
As for the affair, at least have the courtesy to tell him what your plans are and give him a chance to address the issues. Regardless of pop wisdom regarding ultimatums, there most certainly is a time and place for them.
Looks like it is time to include your husband in the process in a very real way. Make sure that he understands that you are serious by putting a time frame on the issue. "Hubby. I am too damn old and too damn tired to spend a year divorcing you. I am not going to lose half of everything I have worked hard for just because you won't have sex with me. It appears that my only recourse is to find a sex buddy. I need to know by the weekend if you intend to address the sexual issues in our marriage."
A sex buddy that you are not emotionally connected to, will rarely remain that way. Emotional connections usually emerge over time with a sex partner. That and the high likelihood of contracting one or more STDs makes an affair messy business. Caveat emptor.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
