Monday... 9/11... 5 years later. Hmmm... Moment of Silence and all that. I feel so distant right now from the stark reality of that day 5 years ago. It was times like that when you really felt close to your spouse. We both cried, hugged, talked. S7 was only S2 then. Wow. Time rolls on.
So this was a little rough weekend... W had her GNO (girls nite out) w/ her friends on Sat 09/09. This was also her 38th birthday. I stayed @ home w/ S7. He caught up Pokemon and I with the grill and my radio shows (now on a "real" mp3 player instead of the old CD! Attaboy for ME!!)
We went out for lunch earlier in the day, but there was some tension. Not too bad tho... ?? Earlier in the day I was at the Lodge BBQ sale (Sat. morning) and I got back around 1pm. W said my parents had stopped by. They returned the charger for my S7's DVD player that got left @ their house. No mention of W's b'day. No card. Short and sweet. Anyway I know this hurt her feelings. I apologized for them, but said I can't really help if they are being "mean" about this. They may have flat out forgotten. I will call them later and see...
So we go to lunch. She's not but so happy to start with. S7 is roudy again (once again I think he's excited that we're doing ANYTHING together and can't help it). We gave W her presents (earrings, gift cert, and a card). I wasn't sure how much of a "big deal" to make out of the b'day. This was pretty typical of what I would get. Anyway it was OK. but just OK.
When we get home she starts preparing for "Operation GNO". they've made a big deal out of all this on their myspace blogs and it's like freekin prom night around here or something. So I hang out w/ S7 all afternoon and early evening, and she finally is ready at like 8:30 pm. I actually drive her to the neighbors (Her husband is dropping them at the sisters house... I know! Yeesh). I drop her off. She "swears to God" she'll be "good". I give her a Happy B'day, a kiss and an ILY. And go back home.
At 9:30(ish) I'm in the driveway looking up at the moon (grilling in backyard while S7 is doing Pokemon inside) and the (ex?)OM drives by. I don't really think about it.
I read a bedtime chapter (Harry Potter!) to son at about 11pm and fall asleep in his bed. I wake up @ about 3:15 and go to bed. A little bit later W gets home. She does something for a while and comes to bed too. I was asleep by the time she came up. I awake around 5 am and go downstairs.
I look at her blog and there is a post from her, her friend, and the (ex?)OM all about the same time, when the girls got home. 3am. So I check the cell phone and sure enough, W called x?OM about 9:30. About the same time I saw him leaving the neighborhood.
W told me the next morning that it was all innocent. She offered this explaination, without me asking. This is same dynamic as when the condom thin went on. She came to me first, so I don't know what to think really. I want to trust her so bad, but it's hard when this kind of stuff is going on.
Anyway, she explains that x?OM was supposed to meet up with my W's friends H (yeesh I know) and they were to hang out during GNO. It all just stinks if you ask me. There was no OM contact, that I could see, for 2 weeks and now this.
Also OM's Mom (our friend and neighb) gave W a b'day card and apparently was trying to mend fences. They sat together in church and got coffee afterward. All fine. I'm glad she is trying to mend that situation. But then later in the day I felt I needed to mention to W that because her and x?OM's Mom are friends again, that it will be awkward beacause of x?OM's proximity etc. That she needs to steer clear as much as possible from him and not let this crap start up again.
Today my W has a blog entry about her newfound fashion choice THONG underwear. And the conversation devolves into talk about plastic surgery b**b jobs and d*ldos! Then the x?OM posts a little something too. Yeeesh.
quote from x?OM on myspace" loving the fact that I live less then 20 seconds away from (friends name here), and (W's name here)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
Posted while I'm in the dang back yard mowing grass and sweating MAO and these guys are bloggin away. Fed up! can you tell? Do I sound a bit freaked?
AAGGGHHH! Dang right.
All this on top of I've been told as recently as Friday that W is still unable to ML because of (tired, menstrating, we just had a fight last night, put excuse here...)
Makes me feel like Poop Doggy Dog. Really. I see where she has been visiting the "s-toys" at home, not with me mind you, and is active with that and is freekin posting mentions about it on myspace, while I'm told the usual excuses.
I hate this crap. ugh.
