You gotta stop the snooping!! I know, I know it is so hard when they won't talk and we end up taking matters into our own hands.
The reason I had to stop snooping was because I only found things that hurt me and it would ruin all of the progress I was making.
There are a couple of other places to get support for MLC also. www.midlife.com and www.rejoiceministries.org. I am not sure as to your religious affiliation but many here have found their relationships with God get much deeper.
There is also a book called women in Mid Life Crisis that is pretty good.
As far as your wife goes, what if any are her childhood skeletons? What was her relationship like with her parents? Anything traumatic happen recently? Any deaths in the family?
You will find a lot of support here, so keep posting. You know your wife best and what will work with her and what won't. Basically alot of dealing with our MLC'ers is trial and error.
Have a blessed Sunday
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
