Yes, she does have a number of the mlc "symptoms." Have you read the MLC Resources thread at the top of this forum? If not, I highly recommend it.
Please stop snooping and quizzing her. She is only going to interpret that as support for her "position."
If this is truly MLC, then it is time for you to look at you, at your own areas for improvement, and start in on them. You do seem to have quite the life outside home already. A 180 that jumped out at me immediately is to skip the lodge and clean the house (unasked) once in awhile! You probably think I'm kidding, but the onlooker sees all of the game, especially when the onlooker is female!
Meanwhile, patience and warm detachment (if you can handle it) are all I know to suggest. Don't argue, defend, or reason with her, her mind isn't doing rational right now. If it is truly MLC, we are talking years, not months, hence the need for enormous patience.
