All Hell broke loose, found out EA was PA

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yes, I do want to construct a story about how it came to be and how it ended. My H just thinks it is torturing me and him but it is a way of healing.

I've more of less deduced he didnt' leave me for her. He moved out, thought he was going to divorce, she was part of a group he hanged out with. She prob said the right things to console him, he was lonely, depressed, MLC and here was this "wonderful" understand person to hear him out Bingo! he fell for her. Lucky me she was a heartless whore who just used him to get stuff done (moving, errands, care of pets) and when she was done she dumped him.

I'm pretty much over obsessing, but I like the idea of practicing thought stopping, I never thought it could be done, but now that I see it is a good technique I'll work on it more, I had very little thought control up to now.

Thanks again! I do like that book. I'll share what I learn when I get my book too.