All Hell broke loose, found out EA was PA

[toughlover]

I also believe that when you marry you belong to your S and he/she to you, so, where do you draw the line of privacy? shouldn't I be entitled to know things, shouldnt he tell me what was going on back then?

Hey cat. I believe that is true for committed Christian marriage...that's clearly biblical, and I think there's no acceptable alternative. If one or both aren't basing their marriage on Biblical principles, then I guess that's up to the people involved.

My wife will come clean on objective details. So if I ask her...when did OM divorce his wife? where did you meet? did you do it in our home? etc., she will tell me. After a while, I got an accurate enough picture of what was going on, when, and where, that I was satisfied. Disgusted, but satisfied.

I made her tell me about all the beds and sofas in our home they did it on so I could replace them. Yeah, it's a little extreme, but, again, also disgusting. I mean, me and my kids sit on those couches! Talk about conjuring up bad memories.

There's other stuff that I asked (mostly when the bomb was dropped, and a couple days thereafter) that she resisted. I kind of pick and choose my battles, but she answers most of my questions, although there are some things she wouldn't talk about, I though my questions were a little unnecessary and over the top at times, so I understood.