I just found your thread, WOW…. I feel for you. I told you I wished I had something profound to say to you, well from my own personal experience, even though it is by no means the same as yours, I found my self in the same state of mind, one thing that helped , and mind you I am not a very religious person I wake up each day and ask that I am just pointed in the right direction. So far it seems to be working.
Try and keep your spirits up. For someone who has kind and uplifting things to state I am sure you’ll do fine, even though things right now seem hopeless you have convinced me that getting things off your chest makes you feel better.
I hope you and yours find a way to work things out. I am not sure how I would react in the same situation, but I am a big trust person. I t seems to me that trust needs to be rebuilt. My aunt had a WAH and she told me that if you lose trust and respect it is very hard to gain them back.