Benwa, be very careful here. I know what it is like to hear and see things that give you hope. They get yanked away from you just as quickly! Don't let her words drive your emotion (I just wish I could practise what I preach ) Your W may not feel attracted to you not because of physical appearance but other stuff that made your M unsatisfying to her. Look at those things, and work on them. Sure, get yourself into shape but for you (if it gets you laid, bonus!). Look at stuff that was not happening and change it, I'm sure her desires will change when she senses a change in the M. Make that your focus. You are a determined man, Benwa and that will get you where you want to go. Heed GH's words above mine. He's right on.
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