Hey Benwa. Haven't seen you for awhile. Don't have advice on the finance part. I'm fortunate we both have good paying jobs and my H hasn't made any changes to our joint accounts. Since he moved out, he's been footing his own stuff for the most part.
In regards to your other question about the romancing your W? I personally think you shouldn't. Don't go there. Remember you want her to pursue you not the other way around. It's a nice gesture but I think that will be a backslide. Her part on not pursuing the D is a good sign. Let it be at that for now. Continue with your 180's and your detaching/going dark. Remember time.....it can be your best buddy or your worst enemy.
