This is a tough one and where I struggle as well. My H also tells me he doesnt' have his 1/2 of our joint bills, but I find out that he can afford to go to concerts and other things that cost money. It's just that their prioritys aren't with us or anything to do with their "past" lives. We of course can think rationally and know that if that particular bill isn't paid then our credit will be affected.

I'm not sure what to tell you b/c my H & I are behind on several joint bills b/c he hasn't had his 1/2 and I don't have the money to pay the entire bill myself. Can anyone else give us both some advice on how to handle this type of situation?

I guess if you can afford to pay the bill in full , pay it and then keep all your receipts so you can be reinbursed in the future when or if you get something down legally on paper. In my case H won't agree to paying 1/2 of our stuff so at this point we have nothing legal. He says that I won't get 1/2 until we get something legal, but he won't agree to what is rightfully his responsibility too so are joint bills aren't being paid! It sucks I wish I could afford to pay them by myself, but why should I and in your case why should you??

I just got stuck with paying for our d7' s birthday party by myself. H offered the week before to split the cost with me and then when the time came he didn't offer me any money so I asked him for it the next day. He said he didn't have it and that he wasn't going to give it to me.
( This was her family party - his family I might add )

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