I have been contacted by one of my wife's friends. She has been trying to get a hold of her since july shen she was told we seperated. She couldn't believe the news. This was her friend who my W said understood the most why she felt the way she does. I wasn't suprised when she told me the opposite. She was very upset when i told her the story and about the OM. She is going to try to go out with my W this weekend and tell her what she is doing isn't the answer. my wifes friend has had a very unhappy marriage and learned this summer how to make it work with her H. She told me that she had to stop being so selfish and learn to be more understanding of her H. I was so proud to hear this because the last time I had heard anything was she was ready to divorce her H. She told me that she is going to work on my W into seeing that there are other ways to be happy and that divorce is not the answer especially with the kids involved. To say the least it was a pleasant suprise. I did tell her to keep the fact that we have talked a secret for now because of the view My W would have with her side and my side BS. I will pray that she can get my wife to open up and see her view. She also said that she had a friend who was about the same age as my oldest boy whe her parents got divorced and has never been the same. She is going to try to get my W to see what she is doing to the kids because my W still denies it to me and herself. Boy I pray that she can be strong enough and compassionate enough to show my W these things.
