I think asking her back right now would be a mistake but...what the hell do I know! If I was so damn smart would I be here in the first place? It just seems that you need to turn off the pursuit mode for a while. Keep up your contact and friendship (I know that sucks!) and do some serious DBing here. At some point you may let her know that you remain open to her returning but you are leaving it up to her, with no pressure to decide if she ever wants that. Be careful with this. I wrote my W a letter shortly after she dropped the bomb on me. I outlined my feelings for her, what I pictured for our R in the future if she ever wanted it. I put it all out on the table and have left it there ever since. She knows where I stand and I'll bet your W does to. Be the tortoise and enjoy the slow lane for a bit.
It just seems that you need to turn off the pursuit mode for a while. Keep up your contact and friendship (I know that sucks!) and do some serious DBing here. At some point you may let her know that you remain open to her returning but you are leaving it up to her, with no pressure to decide if she ever wants that. Be careful with this. I wrote my W a letter shortly after she dropped the bomb on me. I outlined my feelings for her, what I pictured for our R in the future if she ever wanted it. I put it all out on the table and have left it there ever since. She knows where I stand and I'll bet your W does to. Be the tortoise and enjoy the slow lane for a bit. 