Well lets update this thing. I have had a pretty quiet time with my W this week. She called me a lot last Friday trying to see what i was doing and when i was doing it this weekend. She wanted us to go out on opposite days "for the kids". My mother took care of them so we both went out on Saturday. I think she was worried about bumping into me. I let her worry and had me a good time because yesterday was my birthday. I got to see Jimmie Vaughan play in a club here with around 150 other people. It was so rockin! Of course the blues spoke to me last night like they never had before All and all a good weekend. Yesterday my W called to wish me a happy B day and talked and talked about nothing. I don't understand these conversations. I get the impression she is waiting for me to say something but I don't elaborate on anything I do. And I don't talk about the R or the OM I just let her talk. Yet she goes on and on. Does anyone have a suggestion on what i should do? I want to hope that she is waiting for me to ask for her back but I would think she would just tell me she wants to try again. I think that because she has been empowered by this. In her mind she is calling the shots and well I just let her go. Should I reach out to her yet?