Well I do understand how it is and I know it was a mistake to give the gift at work. or at all. Now can you tell me what my wife perception of me is because that is something I would like to know. She says that i am a great husband and has nothing wrong with me. Yet she just wants to be my friend. The history is where it belongs. My life is where I am now. The gift was not supposed to be anything cruel, I just wanted her to be safe for her sake for my kids sake. I am taking care of me. I am taking care of my children. I just want her to take care of her. If she fids that I am not the one fine. I can live with that, i am living with that. I am here though because I feel that there is more at stake here than my marriage. I think that my children deserve better than this. They deserve their parents to be part of a loving family unit that they have grown up used to. i think they need to see the value of marriage and that love is something worth fighting for. If I was being selfish and jealous, I would be as gone as my wife. I wouldn't let her have the time she needed because she would have the kids the lion's share of the time not the opposite. I do thank you for the heartfelt response. Its the reason I am on here to see that I am not crazy trying to climb this mountain alone. Unfortunately I slipped on the way up. I am sure that many have slipped there also. I am still climbing though. And you can't tell me that waiting for her to come around isn't the hardest thing a loving husband will ever do. I think it is but I carry that load with passion and love. Lets keep this journey up together, friends. God Bless
