DO NOT GIVE YOUR W ANY GIFTS/CARDS etc. This weekend is going to require YOU to pull out all of your strength and all of your love and remember all that you are fighting for.
This is going to be an extremely difficult weekend for you to get through....find strength in your children; friends; family. If it makes it easier, think of it this way - you may lose this one battle; but isn't it the war you really want to win?
Unfortunately, your W is not thinking about you right now. Hard to swallow; but true. She can't see beyond the fantasy she's enmeshed herself in. Do NOT do anything that she will see as negative behavior from you. If she sees you crying; clinging; acting depressed - well that's going to give her more reason to say "I have to get away from this - from him." Would YOU look favorably upon someone doing that to YOU? Cry; scream, vent - anywhere but in HER presence. Do it here. With her, be calm; detached; collected. Talk up what YOU will be doing this weekend. Act as if it's no big deal that she's going away!!!
You don't have to say "have a good weekend" or "Have fun". Keep it neutral. Avoid seeing her before she leaves, if possible.
But, most of all, take care of YOU. Read all you can here on this site - there's some really good information. Look in the "For Newcomers" forum and read everything under DB Power Threads. Good stuff there.
