My reasoning for the LRT was because I was sepperated and out of the house when I started DBing. I has tried to talk about our R and it just pushed her away. I felt that my W needed to see the changes happen to me. And I needed to change. I wish I could go back to councelling with her but the therapist we went to really damaged any chance for that now. I am seeing changes in my W's attitude though so I feel it is the right thing to do. The LRT is I feel the best way to deal with my sitch. It makes you get on your own path and going the right way. Right now my path and my W's path are not the same but I feel she is seeing my path is a good one and possibly one she would want to walk with me. This morning I dropped of my boys at the house and stayed there for about a half an hour getting stuff off my computer (pictures) and she talked about all sorts of stuff with me. She complimented me on how I looked again to so I am seeing the small steps and feeling good about myself. My happiness coomes from with in now. I still love her but don't need her to be happy. I'm sure though that if we get back together that my happiness will be a hundred times better. The LRT is not about her it's about me.
