My H's A was 6 years ago,and it does get much better but it never really goes away.It is kindof like a death.You grieve,you remember,and you take one day at a time.
benwa-if you are not in counseling now you might want to try it again.It really helped me & H.
frstart- the OW's H called me.That is how i found out.I was glad he called.I knew something was wrong for a long time.That was a turning point for my situation also.