Quote: Communicating with the OP will fuel the fire, as they already know what they are doing is wrong and choose to do it anyway. It allows them to see you as the bad guy.
That's one interesting way to look at it. I never thought of that, but then again, at this point in your life when you feel so betrayed who's thinking straight?? That was a good explanation Muddle... in my sitch, I emailed the OM once, that was before I found DB, he replied probably 2 weeks later, too late for him because I had already regained control of myself.
