Ok, I think you and I and our H's for that matter are all at the same place. A fork in the road so to speak. Road A = we are about to now become a WAS or Road B = we can sit in this M and just turn off our desire for intimacy and passion, and live with this roommate. Or...Road C, which btw is the road I think we should take, we change what isn't working.
Are we putting too much pressure on our H's? You mentioned that your H isn't feeling very "manly" right now after all that has happened this year. My H is undoubtedly feeling the same (we also are in the middle of a debt consolidation in part due to the fact that he spent ungodly amounts of money that we didn't have during the A). They feel guilt for betraying us, they feel like a failure for not being able to provide for their family. How do we build them up and make them feel like a man? A man that loves his wife and wants to ML to her often. That my friend, is the question of the day!
