First off a slight hijack...Strongbear how are you? Catch me up on your situation!
****a well man won't deny himself or his spouse a healthy SL
I would disagree. If we can be frank here.....I have as much if not more of a sexual drive than I did when I was 15. However even after I left the OW intimacy was tough because there is a psychological part to it. If a guy is just looking to get his groove on, that's one thing. But ML is as much mental as it is physical.
My gut tells me that y'all need to interact mentally. The sexual stuff will follow.
One thing you have to understand though....Affairs are VERY powerful. When you are in a marriage for a while and have the typical problems of marriage, it is a freedom. Not only do you miss the OW but you miss that freedom.
It's not like when you were in college and a relationship did not work out and you move on to someone else. You go back to the thing that drove you to the affair in the first place. (Yes meaning the marriage).
My opinions are myopic so take them with a grain of salt. But the seeds of my affair were planted years ago. Not that I am a victim. I am and was wrong.
My point is that you and your hubby need to "connect" psychologically. There will be ups and downs. But if the mind does not click the body will not either.
