Quote: a well man won't deny himself or his spouse a healthy SL
and yet, he did for YEARS. This is not just post-A. This is a good five-year problem in our M. The point is that I'm not willing to take it anymore since he had some healthy sex and strong desire for the OW, and yet came back to the same old pattern with me of NONE.
He pursued me on the sidewalk after MC and said "i don't want you to be done' and I apologized (again), but dammit, I'm not being placated to stay only to have this sh!t ongoing. somebody has to stop this ride so we can get off. (pardon the pun. ha). I told him things have not changed and there doesn't seem to be the motivation TO change this habit and he deserves someone to motivate him, as do I.
I am not going to his parents' house for Thanksgiving (MIL called and left a msg on the machine, which is why it came up); he said we're a family and we should be together and I told him that we will be alternating holidays, for God's sake, we might as well start now. He ended up telling his mother that I am not coming, and now he can deal with all that later. It's a relief to quit acting like everything is fine. it is NOT fine, GD-it.
Even our ever-optimistic MC said that ours was not a M (given our current non-intimacy, QTime together), just good-functioning roommates. Life is too short for this ongoing failure.
Just goes to show you, you never can guess who will be the ones to make it, who will fail.
This train has completely derailed, and will not be stopping at the station.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
