My Glass is Almost Empty, BI_43 part 2

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I kept thinking, what good is it to my life and relationship to make H feel like sh!t about himself. Not much. How can I show love to him like Christ would

That is SO true! it also dawn on me "what good is it to remind him how much he screwed up?" I found an old movie stub, he'd gone with op to see a movie I loved (he knew I was dying to see it) and which I ended going alone. I mentioned I'd rent it (he doesnt' know I know he went w/her, at least I was able to act like an adult and didnt fuss about it) I just wanted to see what he said, of course he played dumb. So, what the heck was I expecting?? for him to tell me "oh yes, the movie I went to see w/op" ... but again, I didnt' rub it on him that I knew the truth.

We gain nothing but hurt when we twist the knife, I think we are stepping up the ladder by acknowloging this truth BI, as my H's TM said last week "I feel low enough", someone posted to me "be his safe place to land" Let's always remember that.