i managed to stay online...i wanted to post a comment but don't want to take time to set up an account. so, here it is:

"i am really looking forward to reading more.
my husband is in the midst of an affair, and he too leads his 'public' life (which i WAS part of) and then his private life...it's like being married to two different people.

i want to understand--i DO understand. Affairs are really easy to fall into...its hard to keep your head clear in the emotional jungle. None of us can judge until we've been in those shoes.
I can't condemn my husband, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.
jacqm"
you can passit on if you like, BI
jacqm