Quote: He said tonight that he (H) can't be the one I depend on to make me whole - only God can fill that hole I have - which I KNOW, but I'm unable to completely let GO of it... ... the sex/physical thing, except our roles are reversed from 'normal' genders and I want sex in order to FEEL intimacy and he wants intimacy first to want sex)
BI, we are so in the same pg. Sunday during an argument he told me how whatever I need I need to look for it elsewhere (affirmation, solace) because at this moment he is still broken and can't give me anything, we do ML but other than that there is no affection unless it comes from me, he receives it but that's about it.
Same with sex, you wrote down exactly what's going on with us. At the begining he told me "it didnt feel the same" and this Sunday told me he felt ashamed & that's why he wan'st into it as before.
It's so hard for us women go without affection, I guess for the time being we need to try to fit a square peg into a round hole BI, fill ourselves w/other distractions and step back from our expectations just a bit.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
