Quote: Well he doesn't want THAT, he wants me to acknowledge his efforts in THE R (which is way harder to do, b/c it's more vague & our perspectives are different about it): to thank him for spending time with me talking about his day when he never did that before. He still doesn't do much of it now, IMO, but apparently HE VIEWS it as a large amount of time and effort.
You need to know what needs to be improved from his perspective and what he's doing to improve it. Then, and only then will you be able to really see his strides for what they are. There shouldn't be mindreading involved. You also will be GENUINE in your acknowledgment of his efforts because you will recognize that he's doing what he set out to do, not doing things differently that you may or may not attribute to conscious effort on his part. Get it all out there and be methodical about it!
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
