BI Hey, girl-- thanks for stopping by my thread. I agree, i think we WERE separated at birth!
You've gotten some really great advice here. Esp. about TELLing your H you want to be held.
the thing that came to my mind also was, what if you told him you'd like to start from the beginning again? you are both new and different people now. start a new R as if you didn't know the old, clean the slate, no expectations, etc. and date. talk. share thoughts not of your R and how you'd like it to improve, but what you'd like your life to be like...dreams and hopes for the future.
i think sometimes we keep trying to fit the new round peg person into the old square hole they used to fill and we end up wasting so much time adjusting, chipping away, squeezing and prodding. maybe sometimes its just easier to start new and fresh?
You could still talk about what you liked before and want to carry over, but no accusations-real or implied-i.e. learning to trust again which refers back to the loss of trust before (blaming). Make sense?
just my thoughts.
course, i'm no where near that yet. H finally made the lawyer appt for next thursday, then said, well, even then it'll be months before its final. Meaning he still has time to bail or change his mind? who knows.
