Muddled, that was the smartest thing I've heard all day.

BI, I'm also looking for some solace that my H just isnt' ready to give me. The most I could do last week after the "discovery" was to ask him to hold me, and it made me feel so good. Damn it, go ahead ask, just to hold you for a little while, it did wonders to me.

Remember, even before this mess, our Hs weren't exactly dr. Phil when it came to dealing with our feelings, so now it's a double whammy and they are clueless at SOME degree.

Let's look at the few pearls we have among this muck honey, sending you a big hug tonight)))))))))))))))))))


Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2

30something
2kids
survivor of S, MLC, A, D
I have peace in my heart, at last.