Quote: But she really is clueless at times concerning men. She needs to be more connected to the fragility of the male ego, just as she is sensitive to women’s issues. Her being rude when turning me down is just mean spirited...
Call me stupid or "thick" but I didn't know or understand for years that my saying no hurt H's ego. I thought (and still do think) H was/is the most attractive man around, a great guy, MHO, I just wasn't in the mood. I really, honestly, never gave a thought that he felt rejected when I said no. And sometimes when H wouldn't accept no and kept trying thinking a different plan of attack would work...well the no got louder and ruder. It wasn't until I started reading all of the R books that the lightbulb went off and I realized sex was connected to love for my H, his approach (not the deed) and consistant effort always came across as if it was a pesky NEED (like scratching an itch) not a desire. Does your W make or know the rejection/ego connection? NR
