(and when I say 'correct,' I mean you state your preference on how you WOULD like to be touched that feels good to both of you)... but if you don't want to be touched right now, you let him know... gentley, and give him some clue on when you WOULD be ready to be touched.
This is SOOOO important. I remember that just before I left on vacation, I asked W for sex and she gave some tart, angry response. That really ticked me off! We talked it through and I told her exactly what you are saying now, that she was being disrespectful and insensitive to me. Turning me down like that hurt my feelings and made me angry. I told her she should not be angry with me for desiring her, but instead should be thankful.
She seemed to have a lightbulb go off in her head (Duh! She can be so THICK sometimes!) In the future she then agreed to turn me down by saying she did not want sex now because she was tired, etc., but could we do it at some future time, and to be sensitive to my request. Well, at least that’s what I’m hoping for….
