Corri,

Thank you for the great advice. I am throughly enjoying this research, although, I am pretty sure I couldn't order C*nt through the interlibrary loan service .

As far as clothes go, there are women who can pull off slutty clothes and look sexy and there are women who try to look sexy and come off seeming trampy. I think it's all in the motive. If a woman is dressing sexy because she feels sexy, she will exude sensuality/sexuality. If she is dressing sexy to attract attention or because that's how everyone else is dressing, then there will be a projection of desperation that will translate into trampiness. Does this make sense?

MJ, jackson, Lou, and Chromo,

Thank you, Chromo. I agree that there needs to be that certain something, because how many men can maintain attraction to a well dressed manniquen (sp?) for long? Maybe that certain something is a sense of adventure, a childlike wonder, and ability to laugh, willingness to see things from different POVs all dressed up in a very womanly body. Am I completely off here? Am I pasting what I think would positively affect attraction over the spectrum of human experience? Or is it an issue of degrees?

Cobra,

I am listening to the NPR broadcast on aging. I had to laugh at the "creeping decrepitude". I still try to stay fresh and listen to new music, and read young authors. I pick and choose what appeals to my sensibilities, but try not to fall into the rut of only liking those things that are in alignment with what I have already experienced (ie only those new artists who are derivitive Led Zeppelin or Thomas Pynchon). I am open to getting tatoos, body piercings and other things that may be the province of the young.

honey,

I think you are absolutely right, it's the little things that help the overall effect. I heard somewhere that a womans underclothes must match. This has stuck with me over the years. This sometimes poses a shopping nightmare for me . If my underthings don't match, I feel out of sorts.

Martelo,

I think your point is valid, but one of the problems I see with taking a gay man's advice is that he is only asthetically attracted to a woman, where as a straight man is going to enjoy the whole feast, if you kwim. General consensus here is that it isn't about being perfectly manicured and appointed, but rather having a strong sense of yourself expressed clothed or unclothed.

I don't mind the sun sometime The images it shows I can taste you on my lips And smell you in my clothes Cinnamon and Sugar And softly spoken lies You never know just how you look Through someone elses eyes BHS-"Pepper"