Passive aggressive is when someone may be in a conversation or arguement shutdown or say it is over. If the arguement is abusive, that is different. It also could be not talking to someone or the "silent treatment". Thats is very passive agressive. Doing something that somebody has asked when you have no real reason not to abide by it is passive agressive.
Franck gave me some great advice once. Don't say we can't be friends. Just say we are not going to be friends. We will be friendly, but not friends.
One last thing, you carry too much resentment. You may think she can't read it, but she can. You are not ready to date or get back together until you have done something with the resentment and pain. GAL and work on that. When you can think about you wife and not feel the hurt and pain, maybe you will be ready for reconciliation and/or another relationship. Your still angry man- but you still the man.
Update on me- Bought a new house and have avoided her (passive agressive by the way). But also, the best way for me to heal. When she is around me, she is chatty Cathy. I was told that she is still seeking my approval and friendship because of our long history. I am differnet than you. I realized that my friends would not treat me like she does. I am taking the kids as much as I can. Life is really good, not great but getting there.
Jeff
Hillcountry
[color:"red"]I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it."
