RonJon- I've gotta rush to get ready for work, but just wanted to chime in quickly.
I'm not at all suprised about the dating scene and finding that the women are taking it more seriously and looking for "the one," while you just want to relax and meet people without expectations. I don't know many women who can truly go out with a relaxed attitude and start dating just the see what it's like without having expectations. If they do, it's probably because they have someone in the wings like you do. You're still hoping on your xw, which means you don't have a lot wrapped up in the women you date.
I don't know how all that effects how you should be going out and dating. But, interestingly, if I was EVER to be able to go out and date in a casual way without looking for "the one," it would be now. Because I'm hoping on my H. It makes me want to try it. I'd love to be able to date with no expectations. Maybe dating would actually be fun!??! But that's another story...
