Quote: the question of why finding someone new is the true testiment that soemone has moved on...does that make sense?
Yes, that does make sense and is a very deep question to me it seems. There are so many reasons a person starts dating again, one of them is to "prove" theyv'e moved on, another may be to make WAS jealous (or think), may just be time, may be that frantic time, to prove they still have it, the list goes on an on.
Having already gone through the frantic, just need to date someone phase many months ago, which thankfully for my potential dates, I never went out on (canxd), because like you put, have seen many times posted here as not good and is not for the right reason. Think in my case, it's more of "it's just time" and time to deal with the reality of the situation. Definitely no anger involved for me with my meeting and going out to spend time women. Will have the anger with the om until that situation is resolved but realize I have no control in that and to think I do or say/try anything would very likely only make things worse from my perspective.
Would not even call my motivation as trying to find someone new since that implies replacing the level or R I had and that is yet another phase it will take me quite a while to get to. For now, just some light conversation and shared activities to build on my already full life.
Here's to your resolutions and may things work out for us in 2007, I post my dating on the "Surviving the big D" board and this one for interactions with the xw which may be on the periphery but helps me organize my thoughts. RonJon
