I think that sometimes we try to fill up the space that our spouses left with someone or something. Maybe, we should try to be OK with the space left over. I know that I was frantic to take classes, work out, meet with friends, find something or someone to occupy the time that would have been spent with LSS. I knew that he had moved on and was busy makinga life with OW. He was so busy he didn't miss me...or at least that is what I thought. Maybe he did, maybe he didn't but I need to alow myself the time to miss him and the relationship. I needed to learn to be comfortable without a bunch of things to fill up the space. Maybe instead of doing things so that your X knows you are busy and desirable, you might want to do things to find yourself desirable. Does that make sense? Maybe you should be the motivation instead of your X.
