JM, Yes I see where you are coming from that actions speak louderthan words, good point. Perhaps she does just want to be friends, no ulterior motive, at least consiously. Probably makes her feel better about leaving if she believes being just friends is OK. It all comes down to the om issue, I probably could just be friends if/when he is out of the picture but that backstab is the real roadblock. 1) Agree that ultimatum is not the right way to go. 2) Friendship is not enough after 24 yrs of marriage, only if it's a transition to getting back together. 3) Don't think I could not answer, kind of like can't hang up but can get out of the convo earlier if I stay focused. Had a plan for the post-game phone call, was going to say "thanks for calling and caring to sharing in the celebration, does this mean you want to give us a try?" But the Buckeyes lost badly and she didn't call probably thinking I'd be upset/grumpy as I would have been back in our M days but not anymore. Anyway, have finally thought of what I think is a good plan, let me know:
Like the DB book says, I'm going to work more on GAL so that when she does call, I'll maybe be with another woman and can't talk with her. Also will send the message that I'm not waiting around for her. Have been meaning to step up my social life anyway in 2007 so this all is coming together at the right time. I've heard that a man another womam/women is with makes him more attractive so may have hit upon on of those win-win situations. Am divorced afterall, right? RonJon "Here's to plans"
