My thread locked up before I got my brain wrapped around itself well enough to post.
If I could be so bold as to hijack your thread for a moment, you posted on my locked thread that:
Quote: Everybody deserves to be happy with their lives and shouldn't have to accept circumstances that will cause long term unhappiness. Would you be more happy with H and no career or career and no H?
I've asked myself this Q many, many times. Did you mean any H at all, or my particular H? If I really, really, really had to decide between a happy M and a career, I guess it might be the career. But I would be unhappy. Maybe just a little less unhappy than if I had an H and no career. But, do I have to make that choice?
But if you mean chosing between my particular H and a career. Well, the answer is the career. As painful as it has been/would be to leave the R, I know EVENTUALLY, one day I would be over it. But if I stayed in the M and denied my desire to follow a passionate career, I would never get over it. Even if he stayed with the repressed, depressed, angry, passive-aggressive hag I would become, we would be miserable. More likely I would just start scheming ways to create a secret career, he would find out, and we would split anyway.
And about you moving closer to your daughter in your XW and the OM's area...I think it would be good for you to be closer to your daughter and for your boys to be closer to their mother. But, I too think being around where OM is, especially when you're still feeling the knife in your back is seriously problematic.
