TLAs & all, Hope your holiday went well for everyone. Me and my three children had a very nice one together. The cruise was lots of fun, made friends, did exciting activities.
On the xw front, had sent her a short e-mail Xmas eve figuring she wouldn't be calling me on Xmas and I sure wasn't going to call her not knowing if she was with om at the time or not. She did end up phoning me on the holiday, thought it was for talking to the kids when I answered but she had already talked to them. We had a short pleasant conversation, figured no need to make things go ugly on the big day, better memories that way. Was upset she was not here for the kid's sake and preferred to be with om instead of them. S14, the youngest, was the one most disappointed that she was not here with us but we managed to play things down for him rather than make a big deal out of it. Still, it was nice to get a personal phone call from her.
No expectations, figure low key is the way to go for now. New Year's resolution will be to not be "friends" as she wants to be, to rebuff her "friendliness actions" for as long as she is with the om or at least for the 1st three months (can focus on 90 days easier than an entire year to start with). Time to have her stop thinking she has me on the rope as a back-up or that we can "all get along" or whatever she may be thinking. Believe that is the way to eventually move forward at some point in the future. Happy holidays/New Year to everbody! RonJon
"I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason."
