JSD, No real advice, just an opinion in that I do believe at some point everybody has there "have it out" day, I know mine is coming, may even be later today. The air has to be cleared before any progress can be made even if that means taking one step back to take two forward.
Mine uses the term that I make her feel "uncomfortable", not anxious. My response has been to be more relaxed and cheerful, just the kind of person anybody would want to be around. A lot of it has to do with body language and just trying not to care so much about outcomes/expectations, guess what I'm trying to say is minimize the drama.
Good luck, will let you know how it turns out with me, RonJon
