The golfing went well as far as the company goes. For someone who has taken lessons and played alot latel she stunk up the course. But opposite of when in the past I would try and tell her (unsolicited) what she was doing wrong which would only make her madder, I just worked on keeping things light focusing on the positives (exercise, company, Hawaii weather, whatever) and only provide tips when she persited in asking. So that outing went well and then we went shoping the two of us which also kept the conversations going. After being in a cave with two teenage sons with the occasional grunt have probably talked more in the last two days than all of last four months.
Highpoints, we talked about Thanksgiving and she mentioned that D19 didn't want to go over some old friends we used to know when she was a child and I couldn't help it because I suspected and asked "is it just you two that would be going?" because I know my D19 will not tolerate any "family activities w/om, not her family. xw said yes, just us two but who knows for sure. Didn't dampen the conversation which quickly moved on.
We went on a dinner cruise but xw didn't bring a dress so she was trying on some of D19s that had been left here but kept saying they made her look too young which was ironic because when we started to break up she would wear very young looking clothes but didn't like it when I brought that up. Talk about a flip-flop. Anyway, thecruise went well although somwhat awkward when one of the crew tried to get us to dance, later xw just sat near the dance floor and Itried to get either of the sond to dance but they wouldn't so I just went up in the crowd and danced and soon both xw and S13 came on the floor also. About the only other highlight was when she was settling in for the night and since she had been complaining about not sleeping well in D19s bed said "if you can't sleep well, you have options and gave a big smile and rolled my eyes across the hall to the master bedroom. She laughed and said "yeah, right" which I supppose is better than anything that starts with go ____, or ___ off or getting serious.
We have the Sea life aquarium/park in the morning and see if we can survive the Stingray tank, they have renamed them Hawaiian rays to sound less ominus. And then some snorkling so swimsuit competition tomorrow.
So lets have it, the positive and the negative. RonJon
