So far, have not been overly attentive and it has worked with her coming over to me on a few occasions when I've gone off to do my own thing. Hard not to make eye contact, it's what I usually go by as the window to determine how things are going. She's asleep now, after midnight her time and not a late nighter as is. She had been complaining about being able to sleep in the daughter's bed so had considered telling her that it would be OK to come acroos the hall but then reconsidered that tonight is too early even though that is twice she's said thngs that could be taken two ways.
We ended up going to the beach, had a drink, and watched the sunset which she enjoyed and commented that she should visit more often. Think she leaning toward coming here for Xmas rather than the boys going to CO which they really don't want to plus we may all go on a cruise. Forgot how much she could talk but suppose that is a good thing. Did take the dog for a walk in a tank top but she didn't say anything about my working out. She pretty much looked the same, maybe carrying a little winter weight for CO cold but she did say she brought her swimsuit and was looking forward to snorkling so will have a better view tomorrow. Cooked on the grill for dinner and so to this point things are going OK, she was tipsey after that one mai-tai so will store that bit of info. Tried this thing I'd heard about touching her when she seems especially happy like when we laugh about something. Supposed to lock the memory in or something is the theory. It's just on the shoulder or on the leg type of thing and she hasn't pulled away or said anything. She'll be up early and the boys sleep late so we plan on getting in an early round of golf in the morning. She seems to be paying as much attention to me as she is the boys, hopefully my perception is not off there.
One big question I could use advice on, she still has not admitted to me about the om and I'm wondering if that's something we'd need to get in the open, get through, and have it put behind us to make progress or just keep being the new om myself and see where things go. Kind of split on thinking what's best but would like to hear what any others think.
Also wer're going to plan activities tomorrow, I'm thinking maybe dinner-cruise and swim with the dolphins in addition to the snorkling and dinner/movie and b-day party. Well, we'll see how things go during the golfing tomorrow, will post again when I can, RonJon
