Sherman, Thanks for the clarification and yes, definitely see where expectations would need to be low or else would trigger her "I'm no longer obligated to you" mechanism. Just looking to have some fun because we want to, not because we are obligated to and if it doesn't happen, I'm no worse off than I am today.
One of the things I recall from the DB book is to try and remember what worked in the past and what worked initially, and I keep getting back to having been a take charge kind of guy that she was attracted to. Granted she's not the same shy girl, but betting somewhere deep inside there's still a part. Indifference is the key to the possibility of her coming to me.
Hopefully am observant enough now to pick up on any signals that she's curious about the possibility of getting back together. Like what though? We did not have an acrimonious D, still hug, when I look in her eyes it's like any moment she could say something positive but hasn't yet. I'm hoping my new super-buff body and golden tan may be enough to attract her, her good cooking had me about 30 lbs overweight almost all of our M. Any other ideas on how to create attraction? Haven't gotten to frank_d's thread yet but will look for it tomorrow. Thanks a lot for the advice, RonJon
