Got an e-mail from xw today saying she bought a plane ticket to vist starting next Fri. Was a surprise although she had asked if it was ok since it's S13's birthday weekend said yes but never expected her to go through with it. The visit will be 10 -13 Nov (4 days) S13's Bday is 13 Nov, trying to figure out best way to approach. Part of me wants to demonstrate dating is going well with me and the other part wants to try and make a move for reconciliation. Know from D19 that things are rough w/xw & om because he smothers her by never leaving her alone (I don't ask, D19 complains because she can't get time alone with mon). Dillema is not to smother her either while she's here but would acting totally nonchalant send the wrong message also?
If the response is RJ, what do YOU want, the answer is I don't know. I suppose the majority of me wants to get back together for the kids sake so they can have both their parents like they deserve. That's my #1 priority/responsibility. I've had a few drinks for Weds "hump night"so can't say how clear my thinging is at this point.
Understand that her priority is to come here to see her son on his birthday weekend but would have to think she will be watching me also for changes from pre-D. Knowing her (married 24 yrs), her natural personality is to be a follower, not a leader but may run into an independence streak now that we are both available.
Can't expect anyone to have experience in such a situation but if anyone has any advice at all, would like to hear it to formulate a decision about which direction to go. Thanks, RonJon
