JSD, The best advice I have is to try and just make every day "just another day", when we start assigning great or important meaning to any particular day then it can get overwhelming at times. Mediation is just people getting together to talk. If/when the day comes and D is final, for me didn't even realize it or make a big deal out of it, life goes on.
To clarify the hurt thing above, the initial hurt comes from the spouse that says they want the divorce to the LBS, but then when the petitioner (to use legalese) says they want to stay friends, the LBS often through the hurt/anger tries for some payback hurt by either treating them angrily or as in my case, not communicating with them for some time period/rejecting attempts to contact. Hope that clears things up some.
Haven't talked or e-mailed the xw lately except for a few phone calls about separating assests at the credit union. No personal stuff, just business and given the situation, difficult to be upbeat but did get off the phone before the conversation dragged on; did seem like she wanted to talk more. RonJon
