JSD, I'm there with you in that rocky boat. And not to sound cynical but there probably is an OM, slimeballs are always hanging in the wings. When people wonder, there almost always is. We all have different needs to be met and the way affairs happen is others fill some of those needs so soccer may be one of those you fill. Not sure about anger but she probably will feel guilt and resentment which probably yeah, will turn to anger so watch out.
With me being thousands of miles away from xw, don't have to see her so we both can detach more which I believe is necessary before trying to restart anything. When I was with her during the summer while still married it was weird how we did things together and as a whole family and everybody had a good time. But the times she was like a Stepford wife outweighed the old w.
My advice is that if you think you are hurting yourself by doing things with her then don't. At some point you'll come to realize that you have to start thinking about yourself and what's good for you. Might as well be sooner rather than later if it's hurting you now. As for the kids, they'll need to learn eventually to have different and separate relationships with each of their parents instead of being with both mom and dad together but not really.
If anyone has figured out how to be just friends after being married I haven't seen it posted on this website yet but would like to hear.
RonJon -The flame has to extinguish before it can be rekindled-
