BigB, I told my w when she was talking D that there was no way we could be friends afterwards. Same thing, a warning that I wouldn't be there for her. Turned out we ended up Ding and during the process was civil because I'd read "Divorce with Deceny", after it went final, refused to talk to her for about two months and didn't return any e-mails but the S13 & S16 talked several times with me about it and finally decided that as long as I didn't initiate anything it was OK. Everything seems to contridict no matter which direction taken so maybe just keep shifting gears to keep them off-balance?
The whole friend thing is a $1M question I haven't found a totally acceptable answer for yet. If you read throu some of my older posts it's a recurring theme. For now, figure GAL is #1 and if xw calls, will talk to her briefly and friendly but not be like a puppy dog.
I've tried looking up the stats for remarriage to the same person and found one website that had it at 6% but haven't found another to substantiate that.
If you see her in person, she'll know you love her, read and can substantiate that women are like 95% better at reading body language than men and it's just something that can't be hidden when in person. Good luck, if you or anyone else has advice, I'm all ears. RJ
