Couple other things came to mind over the past couple days and one was that maybe that phone call was the last one she planned to have w/me before the D becomes final and she wanted it to be on a good note. It could have been her testing the water but don't belive that much. When I asked how "Ma" was doing (my MIL) she said she really hadn't talked to her in a long while because "all she (MIL) ever wants to talk about is herself". Excuse me, but here's the point when you should pick up a mirror .
So what I've decided that when/if she does call again "just to talk", the conversation will go something like this: While I do enjoy talking with you, unless there is something about our children we need to discuss or you seriously want to try and get back together, we can't be friends and to try to have freindly chats would not be sincere on my part and I want to be honest about everything. Yes, that's the plan and what I feel will be best for me. Any fine tuning advice or something I may have missed? RJ
Situation: Both 47, married 24 yrs, 3 kids D19 @college, S13 &S16 w/me, thousands of miles from W. Separated Aug 05, she filed Jan 06. No real issues during M (violence, affairs, etc), she "just wanted to live life to the fullest". Suspect probable OM since Jan. See D as inevitable once paperwork processes, trying to figure out what may come next/direction to take.
