Hi and welcome. That was my H's #1 fear, that we'd just go and act the same again, that he'd forget all the C seesions we had, etc. Though your separation was very brief, it was an eye opener. You now can make plans and make it a point to make each other a priority, attend marriage seminars now and then, get out of town together more often, read relationship books together, I've heard lots of great things about Passionate Marriage, my fav book right now is "for women only: what you need to know about the inner lives of man" boy it is an eye opener!
His fear is rational, but it's nothing he can't conquer. Do try counceling, my H and I never believed in councelors nor therapists, we thougth it was ridiculous to pay someone just to listen, but it isnt' that way, the right person will show you guys the path and unearth other issues that might be the cause of tension between you two. For example, I never thought that my chilhood with my drinking parents lead me to always be defensive, to jump at something my H would say that I didnt' agree, because when I was a child I never was in control of my sitch, thus that anger/fear shown in the way I behaved. You both will benefit greatly, I wish you the best, and you guys will be more connected by the time you have kids if you two work it out now.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
