Well, I have got to say that just two weeks ago my situation seemed hopeless. So, I am now very happy to be optimistic enough to be in the piecing forum.
Two weeks ago, after months of unhappiness and us getting nowhere, my H left a letter for me saying he finally wanted a divorce. I knew this was coming for months. We had only been married two years, but both of us were very involved in our graduate degrees and we lost sight of each other. My H left for the weekend on a trip, and I had the weekend to start grieving the loss of my marriage.
When my H came back, I was DBing up a storm. I had spent the night at my parent's house and taken the dog, so he would wonder where I was. When I finally did come home (to him sitting in the dark and crying - first time I saw emotion from him in months!) I just went straight to my room to bed. He followed me and asked if we could talk, he said about how he is more confused now than ever, etc. I was polite and nice but tried to show him that I was okay without him.
The next day when I came home from work he had written me another letter (by this point, this seemed like the only way he could get his feelings out). This letter was much better, however. He had read parts of The Five Love Languages and realized that we could make each other happy again, with work. He asked me to stay his wife.
Since then, things have been better. We have been doing things for each other. The thing is, he is scared that we will slip back to our old ways, and I am scared that he will leave if things get tough (like when we have kids, etc.) We have been trying to communicate more, but we are both kind of clueless as to how to start piecing together.
