And then don't you know your girls are going to grow up and be just like Mommy?
Is that okay with you?!
Look at yourself honestly right now Emily and tell me it's okay for your girls to be just like you when they grow up...
Is that what you want?
Because that's what you're going to get.
The real difference is that they will at least have ONE parent who loves them. One who never gave them up . . .I've already shuffled the deck in their favor. My sister (biological) has had 3 children . . . she kept 1. There must be something in the genes . . I don't know. That's not the point here though.
No I do not want them to have feel the things I feel now. I don't think I'm bad though . . I think I've done alright. If they could have my strength and perserverance (sp?) I would be OK if they turned out something like me. I would d@mn proud of anyone to eat as much $hit as any of us/you here on these boards take.
I just don't feel like standing anymore. . . not for him.
Quote: You are looking for the one thing one of us says to you that will justify (in your mind) you giving up on Kevin so you can start running the roads in search of his replacement which, by the way, will be a carbon copy of him.
Didn't I just say that I wasn't looking for a new R. You are probably right though . . . I will look for any trace in anyone I meet. But doesn't everyone have a type.
From talking with my X (boyfriend) . . . WHO I HAVE STAYED FRIENDS WITH SINCE WE BROKE UP . . us talking is NOTHING new. He is getting remarried and I am terribly happy for him. He and his new girlfriend are planning on coming up sometime . . so they can meet the kids and she and I can meet. Don't freak out about this . . I know you did before RB. Anyway . . . from talking to him . . I realized that he and my H sound A LOT alike . . . accents are different though . . but I always have to talk to them for a minute before I realize who exactly it is. WEIRD! They are totally different in personality . . . but their voices are eerie! Everyone looks for certain things in the people they are with right?
Quote: It's a simple process and a win-win situation. Let him go (that does not mean you stop "standing"). GET A LIFE. Work ON YOURSELF. I am TRYING. . . I need to shut the door before I'll feel truly able
If you do those things, you can't lose.
If he comes back and you live happily ever after, you've won. He WON'T If he doesn't, but you have grown and learned from the experience and dealt with your own demons, well you've STILL won. Why not start this process now . . instead of waiting for him make up his mind. I can do this . . I can work on myself . . . without him choosing whether or not our R is over.
Quote: But I'll be damned if you're gonna use MY words to justify being a coward.
I don't really understand how walking away now . . . after I've tried to wait . . I've tried to allow him back . . AFTER I HAVE TRIED . . how is that being a "coward"
